How to get the most out of couples therapy?

  • The kind of life you want to build together
  • The kind of partner you aspire to be in order to build the kind of life and relationship you want to create
  • Your individual blocks to becoming the kind of partner you aspire to be
  • The skills and knowledge necessary to do the above tasks
  • A vision of the life you want to build together
  • To have a life separate from your partner because you are not joined at the hip
  • The appropriate attitudes and skills to work as a team
  • The motivation to persist
  • Time to review progress
  1. Reflect on your objectives for being in therapy.
  2. Think about your next step that supports or relates to your larger objectives for the kind of relationship you wish to create, or the partner you aspire to become.
  • Managing unruly emotions, such as anger that is too intense
  • How you are communicating — whining, blaming, vague, etc.
  • What you want from your partner during the discussion
  • What the problem symbolizes to you
  • The outcome you want from the discussion
  • Your partner’s major concerns
  • How you can help your partner become more responsive to you
  • The beliefs and attitudes you have about the problem.
  • Blame or attempt to dominate
  • Disengage/withdraw
  • Resentful compliance
  • Whine
  • Denial or confusion.
  • Learn from the past
  • Adapt to changing conditions
  • Predict probable future problems and take action.

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The Couples Institute Counseling Services

The Couples Institute Counseling Services

Specialized counseling services for couples and individuals throughout the San Francisco Bay Area. https://couplesinstitutecounseling.com/