Get The Relationship You Want By Going Through The Mess

  • Open communication in a relationship means you are going to hear things you don’t want to and you have a responsibility in how you react so your partner feels safe to be open.
  • More intimacy and connection means you will have to take steps to initiate and risk hearing “no”, struggling with the perceived rejection and still staying open to your partner
  • Balanced chore agreements often mean understanding each other’s different definitions of “clean” and compromising, not just a to do list.
  1. What is your goal or destination?
  2. Is there a “mess” are you trying to take detours around? What is it?
  3. What do you need to do to move through it, even if the progress is slower or harder that you want?
  4. Is there anything you need to share with your partner about this struggle?
  5. Can you do it on your own or do you need help?



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The Couples Institute Counseling Services

The Couples Institute Counseling Services

Specialized counseling services for couples and individuals throughout the San Francisco Bay Area.